E 122: Extraordinary Confidence: A Conversation with Ask Yourself Why Not Podcast

So thank you ladies so much for joining us. And we are so excited to talk to you about confidence boosting and to hear all about your five ways to create extraordinary confidence. Because I think that's something everyone can use. And I know for sure, and I'm going to speak for Amy for a sec that the two of us definitely need a little boost to confidence. Yeah,

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Don't

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yeah,

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we

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a little bit,

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all?

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a little bit. We got a

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Yeah.

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little imposter syndrome happening over here.

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Always.

Sarah Simone:
 do you want to share a little bit about how you got started together and maybe how you got your podcast started and then how it moved into all of the other amazing things that you're doing?

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Absolutely. You want to go Jay? Sure. Well, I'm Jayla. You're Shay. And I'm Shay. Sometimes we're Shayla. People, we often get called Shayla and we both answer to it. It's just like something that just was natural

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response to answer to. But no, we were always like acquaintances. We have children that are kind of the same ages. We have a lot of mutual friends, you know, Wheeling, small town. But we really started to connect over exercise. We really align with exercise. So we're the people at 6 a.m. going to yoga. And then we started running together on the days they

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didn't offer the time in the morning.

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And we started kind of talking

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about what we are reading,

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what we're doing to

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just feel good, affirmations, like what course

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are you taking?

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and like that aspect we were

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both like self-improvement

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junkies so to say.

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So as we were bonding over that we started taking courses together and like reading the same books together and then we would talk about it like on our run you know.

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And then I was like

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we should like record ourselves so we can like create a community because we feel so good when we talk about these

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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listens to us, we're going to have so much fun. So let's do it.

Sarah Simone:
Yes.

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So that's kind of how we started. And then our name ask yourself why not. It's kind of like the mindset because a lot of times we're always like, why me? And it's kind of like the switch, like, why not me? Like, why

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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not now? Like kind of thing. So ask yourself why not? It's like my life motto whenever birth of our podcast and our business together. Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
Awesome.

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we would start on our jogs, letting little pieces out like, I'm meditating. I'm meditating too. I don't think I'm doing it, right? That kind of stuff. And then, because we weren't best friends by any means, it was just aligned well on those kinds of things. And both of us had a previous history of stress-related Yeah. And we didn't kind of let that out till later too. Like, we're not okay. You know, that, like, I'm not okay. You're not okay. So, but that's kind of how it started. Oh, her watch is talking to us. Yeah.

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I love that when you kind of, cause that's Amy and I sort of did that too, where it was like let a little bit out and then a little bit more. And it was like, oh,

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Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
wait, you're feeling that way too?

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
Oh shit. And then,

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Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
you know, that whole alignment happens. And yeah, I love that. That's great.

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Yeah. Yeah, for sure. And I think when you talked about confidence too, I think people often maybe look at someone like yourself who is putting out content. You have to be confident and able to do that. And like Jayla and myself were not introverts per se and think, oh, of course they're talking about confidence. They were born with it. That's not true. At some

Sarah Simone:
No.

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point in your life, you lose it along

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Yeah.

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the way and you have to… Yeah, you question. Yeah. And the good news is it's a skill you can get better at, which is great.

Sarah Simone:
That is really good to hear, because I feel like sometimes that's something I think of as either being an innate thing that you have or you don't have it. But you're

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Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
so right. You just said something that flipped a light switch for me. It was like when you look at a little like three year old girl walking around, like

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Uh

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holding

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huh.

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her purse and like, And you're

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Oh yeah.

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like,

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Yeah.

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oh yeah, that's the kind of confidence I want to walk around with. But yeah, you're right. At some point in life, I think we either lose it or we fight for it,

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Mm-hmm.

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you

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Yeah.

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know, and keep it or we get told things that make it beaten out of us. Yeah. You know, we lose it in that

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way of the different things that we go through.

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We just

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believe

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things.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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We care about what other people think too much and then you start to shrink yourself. I like to think too, when you're born, it's not written in your DNA like, she's confident. She's not confident.

Sarah Simone:
Right.

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It's

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Yeah.

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not an actual DNA trait, but I think sometimes to the eye, we kind of assume. We just assume. a struggle along their way.

Sarah Simone:
So did your podcast and your work together like evolve into talking more about confidence or was it always that was the beginning of what you guys were doing?

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I think for both Jayla and I, our neuroses is always around work. Imposter syndrome, people pleasing, just not feeling good enough. Not

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ever feeling good enough for whatever

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stinking reason that was.

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I think that's where we both

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were like, why do we

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feel this way?

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What can… We're problem solvers. We're like, what are we missing

Sarah Simone:
Mm-hmm.

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that we think we don't have? the journey in our minds of what led us to that. So just kind of diving in on that kind of side of our life. And really in talking with her, it's like, why wouldn't you think you're good at this job? Look how much success you've had in the past.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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And the same for myself, but in that moment, those were the major neuroses we were both having

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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was around not being good enough in the workplace.

Sarah Simone:
My gosh.

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Yeah. It makes no sense.

Sarah Simone:
As much as it breaks my heart to hear you say these things about yourself, it

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I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Sarah Simone:
kind of because I met you Shay in 1999. So it's been, we were just

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Yeah.

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talking about this off air. That is, so it's been like 24 years. And when I first met you, I think we first met at auditions for Grease in,

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That

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yes.

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sounds right.

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So I remember being like, she is so confident and she is so

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Uh-oh.

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cool and so fun. And like you were so outgoing and just, you know, you are, I think an extrovert or were at the time. I know we can kind

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Mm-hmm.

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of evolve in and out of those types of personality traits too. And I just have always seen you as a confident person.

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Yeah.

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And so it like surprises me, I guess. And, but I think, you know, it comes back to as we age and the more that we hear certain

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Yeah.

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things as, you know, in society as women and in the workplace

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Mm-hmm.

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and all of those things, it becomes a constant struggle to hold onto it or to

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Yeah.

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gain more of it.

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Yeah. And I think too for like someone like myself and maybe others can relate to this too, it's like always achieving

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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

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and

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So

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when you achieve,

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talk

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that

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to

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means that you're good.

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us about your

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You

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experience.

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put

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Yeah.

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your

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worth

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on

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what

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you

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achieve.

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And

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when

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that

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kind

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of

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like

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you have a couple years where you're

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not achieving, you're like, oh

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my

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God,

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I suck

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or

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whatever.

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It's a weird, it's a weird spiral. It has

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with

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nothing to do with

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I think

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everybody

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on the surface level is a

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little

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uneasy.

Sarah Simone:
 I'm going to start with you. I'm going to start with strategies here and how you're helping people to achieve that extraordinary confidence.

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Yeah, well, we believe that confidence really isn't something that you get, you know, from another person, you know, even words of affirmation from a manager or your spouse or partner or whatever that is. It really starts with your own internal work. You guys know this from what you do too. So a lot of our stuff with confidence is around diving deep into like rewiring

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I'm

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how you

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going

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talk

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to

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to yourself.

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go ahead and start the presentation. I'm

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the

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going

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to

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reticular

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start

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activating

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with

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system, and

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the

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just kind of bringing awareness around

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presentation.

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what

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I'm

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that

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going

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is

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to start with the presentation.

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and how you

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I'm

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can

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going to start with the presentation. I'm

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just

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going to start

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rewire that part of

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with

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your brain

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the presentation.

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to help

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I'm

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you

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going to start

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have life

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with

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work for you instead of

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the

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against

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presentation.

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you. So that's like kind of the crux of it. And then we dive

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I'm going

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deep into

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to

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limiting

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start with

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beliefs.

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the presentation.

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And I know that's kind of like a buzzword,

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I'm going to

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but

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start with the

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we

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presentation.

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have

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I'm going

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so

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to start

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many

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with the

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limiting

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presentation.

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beliefs that we're not even aware are limiting beliefs. And once you start to create awareness around that, and reframe those limiting beliefs to work for you. That is kind of the big moment. Or even just the start of it

Sarah Simone:
Mm-hmm.

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is just to question if they're even true or not. A lot of us don't do that. We're just on a hamster wheel.

Sarah Simone:
Mm-hmm.

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And then you all of a sudden pause and you're like, wait, this isn't even true. Why

Sarah Simone:
Right.

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am I telling myself this? Why am I believing this about myself? that experience where I believe this was true and just never challenged it, you know? Yeah. It was interesting because when we did our, we launched a course and we talked about limiting beliefs and a lot of people were saying, well, I don't necessarily say to myself, oh, you're not good at this. So I don't have any limiting beliefs. But a limiting belief can even be something like I'm always late or,

Sarah Simone:
Mm-hmm.

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you know, I'm tired. I'm so tired all the time. not glaring

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at you like I'm not smart enough or I'm too loud

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or whatever it is. There's a lot of little

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hidden things that we say to ourselves that hold us back. And once you create

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you

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awareness around that, you can reframe it. And then we talk

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So

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about

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interesting.

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creating healthy habits too. And then we, yeah, we talk about creating healthy habits and like things you can do to kind of build them in your life to where they're subconscious habits to where you don't have to like force you just naturally do them. Or be motivated. you know, the rewiring of the limited belief. So, yeah. So that's kind of the crux of it. And

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I was

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we

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going

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feel

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to.

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so

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Yeah.

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good to want it.

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Yeah, I love that.

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I'm

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I was thinking about that. I mean, we do. And we. Sarah and I talk about this all the time. It doesn't mean that we stopped doing it, but like, I think about the things you just say out loud. You're like, this is the worst. Yeah. You know what I mean? Or I don't like everything that's like negative. And then we all know

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Mm-hmm.

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that that's then what's going to happen. And we know that you're going to be like, oh, I'm going to be like, oh, manifesting

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Thanks for watching!

Sarah Simone:
whatever the things you're saying out loud to yourself and it's really hard to stop. Yeah.

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Oh yeah.

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Even I have it written all over the mirrors in my home with

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Mm-hmm.

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like those washable window markers. Literally, I still say that shit. Yeah.

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Yeah. Our brain loves like patterns

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and it has those grooves. It's a machine. It's

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those deep grooves that are within

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there. And,

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you know, we talk about that too. Of course, it's not a destination. It's not like, oh, I rewired

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you

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that belief and I'm fixed. I'm good. You know, no, they come back and you just have to create more awareness around it. And you're like, all right, I can handle this and do things that, you know, are uncomfortable. And I think so too. It's like in our course and everything, help people understand that you have so much more control than you think or how you feel just with your thoughts. Besides like exercise and all the physical things that you can do, drink water, eat healthy, you have more

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I think

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control

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that's a good

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over

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one. I

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your

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think that's

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whole

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a good

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well-being

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one. I think that's a good

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by just

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one.

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what

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I

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you think

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think

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about

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that's

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yourself

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a good one. I think that's

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and

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a good

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just

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one.

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how you

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speak

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think that's

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to yourself.

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a good one.

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I think

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talking

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that's a

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to

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good

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yourself.

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one. I think that's

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Amy, you

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a good

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talked

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one.

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about

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I think that's

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in

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good

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area, in the Pittsburgh

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one.

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area,

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I think that's a good one.

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like in

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I

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think

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Pittsburgh

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one. I think that's

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area

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a good one.

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too.

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I think that's a

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good one.

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everybody always

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I

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talks

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think

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about the

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that's

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weather

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a good one. I

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here,

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think that's a good

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right?

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one. I think that's a

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good one.

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like, oh,

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I

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the weather's

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think

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that's

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a good

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stopped

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watching

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a good

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what

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one.

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the weather

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forecast

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think that's

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was

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gonna

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good

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be,

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one. I think

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like consciously,

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that's a

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because

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good

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found

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myself

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that's a good

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holding

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one.

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myself

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I think

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back from

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that's

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like going outside.

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a good one. I think

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I'd

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that

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wait for it to rain all day, you know, kind of a thing where you're like,

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Yeah.

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oh,

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Yeah.

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it's 80% chance of rain, I can't do anything. So I stopped doing that and then like did a little research and it doesn't, there's like more sunny days here than there's not, and it doesn't rain as much here think that it does. I forget what it was, but I think that we all buy into that meta limiting belief. Collective. Collective limiting belief of our area. But in reality, I never complain about the weather anymore. Nope. You know? You get outside and you don't let it hold yourself back because it is what it is, right? Buy you a good umbrella. Yeah. So even those things.

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That just like blew my mind though. I wasn't even thinking about like the collective belief. Holy

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Oh, yeah.

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shit.

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Well, we break

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Well, there's

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it down.

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bonding.

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And of course, you break that down too,

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Yeah, but

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how

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there's

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there's

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like bonding

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different

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over

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leaves.

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that like terribleness. Yeah.

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Yeah. Even the recession, that's

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a meta-limiting belief. Yeah. And if you think about it too, I like to use this example. Say you see a pair

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of white boots and you really want them. So you're thinking about them all the time. Now, how many pair of white boots are you going to see that day or

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Yeah.

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that

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week until you buy a pair

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of white boots

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or

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Yeah.

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until

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you tell yourself you want a pair of orange

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boots.

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It's just, it's seriously

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crazy. It's crazy. So it works the same way on the negative. It works

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the

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Yeah.

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same

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way on the negative. That's exactly right. And we do the whole reframing positive to make it work for you instead of against you.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah. Do you have any advice on making yourself believe the things that you're saying? Because

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Yeah.

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that's where I think

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Yeah.

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I hit a wall. It's like, I am trying to reframe some of the things I say, even like silly things like when I haven't showered yet for the day and I'm like, I'm disgusting or I'm a mess.

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Right.

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Instead of saying that I'm just like, okay, I need a shower.

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Right.

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say it because those are like just automatic things that come out of my mouth with certain, you know, things that

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Yeah.

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happen in life. But when you were saying that a limiting belief can be like, I'm always late or I'm too loud. And I have been told, you know, that in the past that I was too loud and I am not loud anymore because of that. And I have

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Yeah.

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like brought myself down and I didn't even think of that as a limiting belief, but it is something

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Yeah. Yeah. That's you. Yes,

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Believed

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that was mine.

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myself. But like believing the positive the flip side of that how do you get yourself to actually believe the things that you're saying.

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You got to reframe it for yours since you mentioned that because that was mine. I always thought I was too much. I always like held myself back a lot, you know. And we do this thing where we reframe it. And my idea is I am just enough for all the right people. Yeah. And I believe that.

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Yeah.

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I believe that, you know. Yeah. It's just those little kind of reframes. And like you said, Sarah,

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believe

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that

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mantra

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is not

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going

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to

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work.

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it has

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to

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be

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something

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that resonates

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with

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you

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when

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you

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reframe

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it. So like mine was always, I'm not intelligent enough. And it came like down to reading ability. And we've learned my son's dyslexic and maybe probably I was too, but I've reframed that like compared to who. And what intelligence am I comparing myself with? Test taking? That's one level of intelligence, but there's interpersonal communications. There's that about myself and it's helped me reframe that core belief that's helped me back for my life.

Sarah Simone:
That's

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So

Sarah Simone:
so

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it has

Sarah Simone:
interesting.

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to be something that you believe. And then when you said, I'm disgusting,

Sarah Simone:
I'm

Ask Yourself Why Not:
I think growing up, we were sort of taught self-deprecating humor. We all did that. And that was a way that we- Bonded. Yeah, we related to each other too. Oh my gosh, all those things.

Sarah Simone:
not sure

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But

Sarah Simone:
if I'm

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yeah.

Sarah Simone:
But I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it. 

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It

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to be able

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is.

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
to be able to

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Grody.

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do it. I'm

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
not sure if I'm

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I'm

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going

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just

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to

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disgusting.

Sarah Simone:
be able to do it.

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Grody.

Sarah Simone:
But I'm sure I'm going

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Grody.

Sarah Simone:
to be able to do it. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do it.

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That's a good word.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah, it is. We are not bringing it back, okay?

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Bye!

Sarah Simone:
I think we should. I'm rallying for it.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
And you know what too, Sarah, with the confidence thing, we talk a lot about habits stacking. Have you guys read Atomic Habits?

Sarah Simone:
I'm familiar with it, but I haven't read it. I've heard

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Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
of it. I mean, it's

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it

Sarah Simone:
another

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makes

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one

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sense.

Sarah Simone:
of those half finished books on my show.

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
I've heard that the audio version is better. So I have that on hold right

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It's

Sarah Simone:
now.

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dry. Yeah. It

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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can be like a drier book, but the concepts make sense. I think another way to create confidence is to get yourself to do things that you say you want to do.

Sarah Simone:
I'm not sure if you can hear me. I'm not sure if you can hear me.

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He teaches about habit stacking,

Sarah Simone:
I'm not sure if you can hear me.

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which is literally,

Sarah Simone:
I'm not sure if you can hear me.

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it sounds so silly, but really

Sarah Simone:
I'm not sure if you can hear me.

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it's just training your brain to do something

Sarah Simone:
I'm not sure if you can hear me.

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after you already have a habit built in

Sarah Simone:
I'm not sure if you can hear me.

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your day. Things that we naturally always do. We always

Sarah Simone:
So,

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brush our teeth.

Sarah Simone:
you always have to be careful

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and get a cup of coffee,

Sarah Simone:
with the cross. And then you

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like build something onto that that you already can actually do.

Sarah Simone:
always

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
have to be careful

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So it

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with

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would

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the

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be

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cross. And

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like,

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then you have

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after

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to do two things.

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I

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make

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okay. Like do

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my

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two things.

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cup

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of

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then,

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coffee,

Sarah Simone:
you have to

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you say

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be

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to yourself

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careful

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literally, after I make my cup of coffee, I'm going to

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with

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meditate for 10

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the

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minutes.

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cross. And then you have to be careful

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And

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with

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for whatever

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the

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reason phrasing it in that specific order

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cross.

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and you've stacked it on that habit you already have, you're more likely

Sarah Simone:
And

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to be successful with it. And that creates

Sarah Simone:
then you

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confidence

Sarah Simone:
have to be careful with

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too,

Sarah Simone:
the

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because you're doing what you said you were going to do. And again, you're

Sarah Simone:
cross.

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not saying to yourself, you know, I'm motivated, I'm going to go to the gym every

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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day of the week and you don't do it and then you're like, I suck. You know, that

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
kind of a thing. You pair it up with something that you subconsciously already do. Like, I mean, I hope we're all brushing our teeth, you know? Right. Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
That is such a good idea. Hmm. Yeah. Cause

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Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
I have

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James

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this,

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Clear.

Sarah Simone:
who is

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That's

Sarah Simone:
it?

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who wrote it. James Clear. He's from Columbus.

Sarah Simone:
Okay. He's, he's fascinating. with him that took book took him a very long time to write. And it makes

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Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
me feel so much better about how and he says a book takes as long as it takes. And I

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I

Sarah Simone:
just

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like that.

Sarah Simone:
he's fantastic, even though I didn't finish

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Mmm.

Sarah Simone:
his book. But I

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I

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will

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love

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not

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it.

Sarah Simone:
anything

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I

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against

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like that.

Sarah Simone:
him. You don't finish a lot of books. No, it's totally like especially ones

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I'm guilty.

Sarah Simone:
that are

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Guilty too,

Sarah Simone:
nonfiction,

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Amy. Guilty.

Sarah Simone:
nonfiction ones. I come back to them. I really do. Yeah. And if it's

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Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
an audio book, I will always finish. So it's

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Me

Sarah Simone:
fine.

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too. Same. Audio is so much easier. It is.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah,

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For me anyway.

Sarah Simone:
but then I need to get the physical books I can take the notes and do the underlying

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If I like the audio, I'll buy the physical. Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah

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I like to read two at a time and people think I'm a little nutty, but I like to read something that's lighter when I can't

Sarah Simone:
Same

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really focus. Then I'll have something that's a little bit more deeper where I'm like, I really need this today.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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So I'll go back and forth.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah. So talk to us about your podcast. And I think it's really awesome. I saw that you guys, because I follow you on social media, OBS.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
same.

Sarah Simone:
So everybody should go follow Ask Yourself Why Not podcast, because they have amazing tips every day and talk about some great things that help you get started for your day. But I saw that you guys went to DC to see Jay

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Yes!

Sarah Simone:
because he's amazing and he has so many wonderful things to say. I love another half finished book on my shelf. God bless America.

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Which one? Think like a monk? That

Sarah Simone:
Yep.

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one?

Sarah Simone:
Yep. That

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
one. But so again, this has a lot to do with confidence, but like I would have reservations because I would be like, I don't have the time. I don't have the money. I don't have the, you know, it's not worth it

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Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
for me to go do that. Even though I know that all of and it is worth it. And so how do you push past things like that and take these steps to go do these things that better yourselves?

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Oh, I struggle with that too, Sarah. One of my big limiting beliefs is like, if I leave my family, how could I leave my family?

Sarah Simone:
Yes.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
I had a therapist once say to me, that's a very ego-based decision. You're saying your family can't handle things without you. Your husband, it's not good for him to spend time with your kids alone. So that's kind of helped me. Mindset, yeah. Yeah. It's

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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funny. I always think around money, and I believe this. I can always make more money. Yeah. another job. I can work

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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two jobs. I can't, you know what I mean? I can always make more money. We always can, right? And also, like, I want to be around people that go to Jay Shetty's events.

Sarah Simone:
Mm-hmm.

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I want to be around

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
people like him. That's the energy that I enjoy spending my time around. So like making that a priority. And man, we were there in and out. It's not like we spent a ton of time there. We went to Lewis Howe's Summit of Greatness. Highly recommend. We were like lit on fire when we left. Yeah. good, and everyone was just crying. Good crying.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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It was good. I'm going to something, I don't know, in a month. I kind of reframe this too. Any money you spend on yourself getting better is worth it. Just

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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do it. If it's

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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going to make you feel better at the end of the day, physically, mentally, whatever it is, who cares?

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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If you have six memberships, get that seventh one, girl. Get it. We're feeling good. That's right. Honestly, at the end of the day, it's all that matters. Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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you can make

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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more money. You can make more money.

Sarah Simone:
I mean, I could see the fire in you guys when you came back from that one over this, that was over the summer,

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Oh,

Sarah Simone:
right? Or like the fall ish, like

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yeah,

Sarah Simone:
a few months

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you

Sarah Simone:
ago.

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guys should go. It's very culty, but it's a cult I want to be in. Yes, me too. For

Sarah Simone:
We got to be very careful about

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sure.

Sarah Simone:
those.

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I

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We've

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know

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learned too much.

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I've

Sarah Simone:
We've

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listened

Sarah Simone:
learned.

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to

Sarah Simone:
So we've

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a lot

Sarah Simone:
seen

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of your

Sarah Simone:
too

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episodes.

Sarah Simone:
much. Yeah. Yeah.

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I've listened.

Sarah Simone:
Been there, done that. No, thank you. Not doing it again. So on your podcast, you've had many, many episodes and many guests, like what is your most memorable or

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Hmm.

Sarah Simone:
the one that you feel like you've gotten the biggest takeaway for yourself?

Ask Yourself Why Not:
Hmm. Got one? I would say our origin stories. Hmm. And we didn't even have a guest.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
Yeah. Because I can say I get the beauty in being able to be honest and vulnerable with people. And I used to not be so honest and kind of judge myself for things. And now I view it more as when I hear other people's stories and I'm just like, wow, if If I can be vulnerable and I can help one person open up and get something out that they've had deep down, that's enough for me for putting myself out there. I think our origin episode was one that we were just leading up to. Then I'm like, okay, we really have to just get it out. There's still more I got to get out. Still a lot more in there. Okay, okay, let's do this.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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So, let's go.

Sarah Simone:
Did you discover

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I would say.

Sarah Simone:
anything about yourself during that? when you write your origin story and you

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You

Sarah Simone:
kind

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know

Sarah Simone:
sit down and look at it from a, you know, a zoomed out perspective.

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I felt like I had so much more strength than I thought I ever did. Just with, and you know what, a lot, I kinda,

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it had me step back and really look at the things I've overcame or the things that I've accomplished that I'm most proud of. Like, you know, being a mom and these little

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
things that we are and we're just like, oh, I wear a hat, I'm a mom. But it's like, it made me look at my life and being like, I made that, you know? Like things like that. Yeah. That's a good one. My favorite one, we got to interview Judy Wilkinsmith. Do you guys follow her?

Sarah Simone:
No.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
She probably come on your podcast, too. She's like a world renowned speaker on limiting beliefs. She's good. We were so nervous. It was kind of like you're- We were sweating.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah,

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You're like

Sarah Simone:
I bet.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
sweating. But she was great and just like this ballifier. And every time like around people like that. It's just like you guys. You don't have to make any money at this. You don't have to know how you're going to make money, but whatever you're interested in and you want to learn more about if it feels good to you, just do it and put it out there and if you help one person at the end of the day, it's worth it. We always say we have the best damn days when we podcast at 6 a.m. together. You know

Sarah Simone:
Yes,

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what

Sarah Simone:
yeah.

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I mean?

Sarah Simone:
Yeah,

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Bye.

Sarah Simone:
that's a good idea. What? Oh, she's sad about that. Six a.m. Yeah. We struggle

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Hahaha!

Sarah Simone:
really hard to find the time. I like that plan.

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Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
Did

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that's

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you see

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about

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her face?

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all

Sarah Simone:
She

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we got.

Sarah Simone:
was like, ladies, no. Why did you open your damn mouth? I.

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That's when you're coming on ours, ladies. 6 a.m. Stop.

Sarah Simone:
I'll just stay awake all night. I'll be there

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HAHAHAHA

Sarah Simone:
on time. No,

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When we

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we

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first

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do

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started

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feel.

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the podcast. Go

Sarah Simone:
We

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ahead.

Sarah Simone:
do feel that way after we record. It's always it's like one of the it reminds me of like exercising where I'm like, I just want to lay here, just want to lay here and then like, we'll do it. We'll we'll record. We'll have a guest. We'll just talk to each other. And we're like, oh hell yeah. Like I am on

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
top of the world. You know what I mean?

Ask Yourself Why Not:
Yep.

Sarah Simone:
And it's just so much better every time. So yeah.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
I agree. I just love your mission. I just listened to your one with your friend, Jesse, on the corporate confidence and I liked her message around like when you walk into your room she thinks that it's like her territory.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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And I thought that that was really good. So I just love the work that you guys do too. Do

Sarah Simone:
Oh,

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a great

Sarah Simone:
thank

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job.

Sarah Simone:
you. We're and we love the work that you guys are doing and thank you for motivating me and giving me confidence every day.

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Oh. Hmm.

Sarah Simone:
So I do appreciate that so much.

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We're trying

Sarah Simone:
And

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to do more of those like talk to the cameras and neither one of us are confident on that. It feels very awkward. You know what? I might

Sarah Simone:
you would

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do

Sarah Simone:
never

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one

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know.

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after this, okay? Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
Wait, what

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but

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do you

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it's

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mean?

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trying to…

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Like their

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You know how like…

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Instagram stories and stuff, like in their reels and everything

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Yeah,

Sarah Simone:
on their Instagram.

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the reels when you

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You

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talk

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have

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to

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so

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the camera.

Sarah Simone:
many. You do it so

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
well. You do it so well.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
Well, thank you. Yes, she does. Well, thank you. We try, but it is not like a thing that you're like, oh yeah, I'm going to put this up there. There's many a times where like, let me talk to you. That's right.

Sarah Simone:
So

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You go

Sarah Simone:
I.

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listen. I'm like,

Sarah Simone:
Yes.

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who am I

Sarah Simone:
Me.

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talking to?

Sarah Simone:
I have a question for you. So with all of your topics and your mission, do you find that there's ever pushback from people who say like, this is just toxic positivity?

Ask Yourself Why Not:
I don't think we've ever gotten that, honestly.

Sarah Simone:
Good.

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You know what?

Sarah Simone:
I mean, good.

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I

Sarah Simone:
I'm just

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don't

Sarah Simone:
asking.

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think I'd care. Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
There you go. There

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I don't

Sarah Simone:
you

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think

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go.

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I'd care. I really don't. Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
And that's

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I don't think

Sarah Simone:
the

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I would

Sarah Simone:
answer

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either.

Sarah Simone:
of confidence right there. Yeah. Yeah.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
Yeah. Well, we just feel so good doing this. Sometimes I'm sure people think we may be a little hoopy loopy, but I would rather be – what is the opposite of that? Because I would not want to be that.

Sarah Simone:
Yeah, yeah.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
Yeah. Yeah. I often think I'm like, what do the dance moms think of me that I take my daughter to the studio? Are they like, she's interesting? But then I don't care because at the end of the day, this is where I'm at in the phase

Sarah Simone:
Yes.

Ask Yourself Why Not:
of my life. I enjoy learning about this stuff. it with whomever wants to listen certainly helped us overcome

Sarah Simone:
Yeah.

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a lot of crappy feelings. Oh yeah. Listen to the origin story.

Sarah Simone:
Yes.

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Yeah.

Sarah Simone:
You guys recently talked to a psychic.

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Mm-hmm.

Sarah Simone:
Can

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She's

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you

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great.

Sarah Simone:
tell us a little bit about that and how that related to so that we can send people to that episode too and all the rest

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Oh

Sarah Simone:
of your

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my

Sarah Simone:
episodes?

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gosh, yes.

Sarah Simone:
how that relates to your mission.

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You should have her on. You should. I really liked how she kind of said that we all need to lean into our intuition more because we're all a little psychic because we all have that gut feeling that we just know.

Sarah Simone:
Yum

Ask Yourself Why Not:
And she, I love in the episode where she kind of talks about that, about how we really need to start trusting ourselves and have that intuition because we all have it. And I really liked what she said about that. She talked a lot about like, you know, I think a lot of your confidence gets pushed down too when you kind of get away from listening to your gut and your intuition because you're like, who am I? But she was talking about like the difference

Sarah Simone:
I'm

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between

Sarah Simone:
not

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like

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sure

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your

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if

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higher

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I'm going

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self

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to be able to do

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and you know, whatever

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that. I'm

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the ego

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not

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word

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sure if

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is

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I'm

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you

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going

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want

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to

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to

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be

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say.

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able to do that. I'm not sure

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And

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if

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like

Sarah Simone:
I'm

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the higher self

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going

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is always like

Sarah Simone:
to

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more

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be

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calm.

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able to do that. I'm not sure if I'm

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And

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going to be able

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it

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to

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may

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do that.

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not

Sarah Simone:
I'm not

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make

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sure if

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the

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I'm

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most rational

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going

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sense,

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to

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but it would

Sarah Simone:
be

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show up to you as like,

Sarah Simone:
able

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yeah, you should do this. And then the ego self will be like more

Sarah Simone:
to

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frantic,

Sarah Simone:
do that. I'm not

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like,

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sure

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oh my

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if

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God,

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I'm going to

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you

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be able

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got to

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to do

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make

Sarah Simone:
that.

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this

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I'm not

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work.

Sarah Simone:
sure if I'm going to be able

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that

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to do

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kind

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that.

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of

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It's all moving. Yeah.

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Yes.

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and how to rewire. That's awesome. So.

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Sarah, that was like the biggest aha moment. We were like, what? Do you know that you can control your mind? Yeah, I knew that. Yeah.

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Yeah, well, because I think that's something that it honestly is something that I've only realized in the last year and a half, two years.

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never was taught that, why

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it is. I shared like a little, like, I don't know, it wasn't a meme, but it was like a little inspiration thing with Shay today and it said like, if we were all taught like the RAS and habit stacking and believing of the higher self and your future self, just implementing those practices children, where would we be now? The world would be a much better place. It was just like,

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Yeah.

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the razz blew my mind. Yeah. Still does.

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So are you all trying to instill in your kids reframing their words and their mindsets to try to help them come up better than we did?

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Yes. It's a little challenging. My daughter, she'll be 10. One time she said to me, she was like, can you just not with your podcast stuff? I was like,

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girl,

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same.

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or something. I was like, Hadley, you don't really mean that.

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She's like, oh, but I do.

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One thing that we started with my kids, and I know you guys know this too, but one of the pieces to just feeling good in general is gratitude. And no, it's like one of those like really used words.

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Yeah.

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But honestly, that was never something I practiced

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consciously forever, right? So with my kids and they're seven and nine, we all say what we're grateful for before they go to bed. And it was hard at first. It was weird. It was awkward. And then now they just like spew it out. anything, they'll remember that hopefully and it will be a habit.

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ways

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in the day, like how do I incorporate this into my day with the kids so that I remember

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you get. Bedtime rituals you added into that. Less pushback too I think from grad, that's easy for them, right? There's less pushback than

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you thinking that, them thinking that you're giving them advice, like oh mom, you know?

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like, but

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right.

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I think that gratitude at bedtime, that's great, that is a great habit stacker too because you're doing it anyways. Right.

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it's

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tip.

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easy to do. Yeah, makes you feel good too at the end of the day because they come up with some things that you forgot about, you know? And you're

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like, oh, okay. So it's cool.

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Oh yeah!

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what was the best part of their day. And

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how they end. Yeah, and then they rate their day one through five.

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her day. Yep, she does, absolutely. And she finds that, you know, and it could be the most like mundane thing, but that was the greatest part of her day. And so it's like, those things are what, when you see children embracing that, it's so nice to

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help

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remember.

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all the time? You know what I mean? They have that good juicy energy and you're like,

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yeah, I mean, I feel like our kids are going to all get fed with way more than we ever were. You guys too. And whether they're

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it.

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Oh, no, but I love that. That's such a good point, because sometimes we feel like we're just beating our heads against the wall with our kids. But

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Mm-hmm.

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my mom always said to me when I would call her upset and crying and be like, what do I do? I've told him a million times. How do I get him to stop ABC or whatever? And she's like,

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it's just consistency, Sarah. You just have to be consistent with them.

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when we feel like it's not sinking in, you know, that million and tenth time that you say it, they're like, oh, right,

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times until it sinks in. Yeah, that's true.

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Yeah, I agree with you. And you know, it is kind of scary because, you know, they always talk about like the subconscious is formed by the age of seven. I'm like, I don't know that that was my best in their first seven years. So, oh well, they can rewire

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it, right?

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Of course they can. Of course. Oh my god that's terrifying.

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Yeah. Yeah. Worst night of my life was the night I brought my son home. I feel like, you know,

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one last question.

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Yeah.

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I got a good one. Okay, I forget mine. So it might be something you've already mentioned, but maybe you can go elsewhere. If there was one book that you would recommend to someone,

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That's a very good question.

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what would it be?

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I think the one that got me at one point in time was the – well, two of them – was the Mel Robbins high five habit. Do you guys know Mel Robbins?

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I do. You guys are going to introduce me to all the goodness.

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Okay. I loved Slight Edge.

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I read that one three times. I love that one so much. It's a

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good one. Slight Edge. And then

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That one was- It's an oldie. It's deep. And I listened to the audio book and I think you need to listen to the audio book because it's like a interview with the devil. And

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it's just

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the language is different. Now

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Mm

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I want to listen to it again. That was good. And then the one that I really liked too was The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success from Deepak Chopra, which is a serious book, but it's simple, it's small,

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hmm.

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and it's very logical.

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He also has The Seven Spiritual Laws for Parenting, which kind of goes off that as well. But those were all really like, I get it.

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Excellent.

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But Mel Robbins, I'm telling you, she simplifies all the stuff

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I love it. I love it. Well, thank you ladies so much for coming on and giving us a little boost of happiness, laughter, and confidence. It's such a pleasure to talk to you and we will do this again very soon. And yeah, yeah. Thank you very much for being here and we are excited to come and listen or visit with you guys on your podcast as well.

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